Why mindset matters when building a life you love and how to cultivate vibes that will help you enjoy the journey.
How often do we get stuck in the grit of our daily lives, heads down, blinkers on just trying to get through the day, the week, sometimes even the months or the years waiting for the next magic “reset” at which point suddenly everything will be refreshed and our dream lives shall of course begin. Then that reset comes and goes and we find ourselves trapped once more in the mundane cycle of an unfulfilling life.
But what if it’s not a typical reset that we need. Yes it can be cleansing to clean the house, run those errands and stock the fridge with healthy groceries but what good does it do if we simply sink back into our old habits and routines only to have to steel ourselves for the week ahead.
Those days we have to ready ourselves for, are the fabric of our lives. We may have the odd holiday to look forward to and the occasional social event to break up the weeks but ultimately it’s the mundane day to day that makes up the majority of our lives….. so rather than a cycle of grind, reset and repeat what if we could refresh our mindsets instead to make everyday as great as it could possibly be and build the foundations of a life we truly love?
1. Make everyday a best day
Hands up if you buy clothes you love but never wear because your saving them for best or if you keep your favorite skincare and makeup products for special occasions. What about that perfect “signature scent” that never gets a chance to become signature because you use it so infrequently and the beautiful jewelry and watches you treasure but are terrified to wear? Then of course there’s the towels we keep for show on the off chance of guests, the heavenly bed sheets we keep in the linen cupboard , the nice crockery and silverware that lives behind the pyrex dishes…. these are the treasures we imagine will fill up our dream lives, the things we imagine our perfect future selves will wear and use daily and yet they sit tucked away waiting for best!
What if we stop imagining this so called perfect best future occasion and instead enjoy our favorite things daily making every day a best day …. slowly uplevelling our lives day by day instead of imagining some fictional magical day in which we might all suddenly become that dream version of ourselves.
Let’s cultivate a mindset of romanticizing the day to day, putting effort in to cultivating environments, days, and ultimately a life that brings us joy.
2. You are worthy, you are good enough, you do have what it takes!
It’s surprising how insidious this particular mindset can be. It’s a subtle one that can lurk beneath the surface of our subconscious our whole lives if we aren’t tuned in enough to spot it. However once you do, you can’t unsee its roots in all aspects of our lives. Often it manifests in thoughts of of our future selves who are thinner, prettier, healthier, wealthier, more “successful” than our current selves and in our minds subconsciously more worthy of a life they love than our current version.
Of course if we truly think about it, everyone we put on a pedestal and compare ourselves against had to start somewhere….. it’s highly unlikely they were born perfect… in fact it’s highly unlikely that they consider themselves perfect, they likely have their own insecurities lurking beneath the surface level polish that dazzles us mere onlookers.
The point is, we are all a work in progress and our vision of a life we love will likely change and evolve too as we become different iterations of ourselves. Anything is possible as long as we believe it is and that we are worthy of the effort and successes we could achieve.
Why not try giving that old adage “if a jobs worth doing, its worth doing properly” a go… once you put your all into a task it starts to show us what’s truly possible and as we become better and better at achieving the task at hand we begin to feel more and more worthy of the feeling of success it brings.
3. An attitude of Gratitude!
This one is a well known gem of a mindset for very good reason. Focusing on even the tiniest moments of good or beauty or kindness with a sense of gratitude and appreciation cultivates powerful feelings of happiness.
What good is the constant striving for success, even if success looks like building a life you love, if you don’t ever stop to enjoy and appreciate the fruits of your labour?
Building a life we love is entirely about the journey, not the destination. So try to regularly, if not daily, check in and reflect on how wonderful your life already is and try to cultivate more of that in your life. Once you do often the mundane aspects of our lives that perhaps we don’t particularly want to do, or worse are dreading.. become opportunities or even privileges rather than obligations.
Next steps…
Okay great, so there we have it three significant mindsets that can make all the difference when it comes to creating a life we love…. but what now?
Applying these mindset shifts, first takes awareness of the times we fall into our present mindset traps and therefore the opportunities to change our mindset in the moment. While we can try to be as mindful throughout our days as possible, it we may not always catch our limiting beleifs in action.
So for those of us who aren’t yet buddha like with our awareness perhaps we can integrate a habit of daily reflection, to understand if our days have gone as well as we had hoped, did me move the needle in the right direction and if not then what were the deeper mindsets or beliefs that held us back? Lets commit to challenging these mindsets daily and swapping them out gradually bit by bit for those serve us better.
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